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Insights on friendship, connection, and building a stronger social life.

August 27, 2026

What Does “Make a Friend” Really Mean?

What would happen if you got better at making friends instead of just trying to find them?

August 27, 2026

Be One Version of Yourself and Trust Builds Faster

Why do we trust some people and not others? The difference may be behavioral variance: how much of the same person shows up when circumstances change.

August 27, 2026

Turn People Chemistry Into Friendship Alchemy

Human chemistry is not a passive process. Alchemy shows us how to change contacts into good friends.

August 26, 2026

Politeness Is the Fast Food of Friendship

Politeness keeps social life running smoothly. But between close friends, too much of it can create distance, hide small problems and quietly spend the relationship. Maybe one reward of friendship is earning the freedom to stop managing each other.

August 25, 2026

Develop Hobbies and Make Friends Before You Retire

Retirement can leave you with more free time and fewer people to spend it with. The hobbies and friendships that make those years rich can take much longer to build than most of us expect.

August 24, 2026

What Makes a Good Party?

Why do some parties with great food, wine and entertainment still fall flat, while simpler gatherings leave a luxurious emotional feel? The answer may be how much room the party leaves for the people to find each other.

August 20, 2026

Before You Repair a Relationship, Ask What You Want Back

Relationships change. Sometimes the right response is repair. Sometimes it is accepting that the relationship still has value, just in a different form. And sometimes it is recognizing that something good has simply run its course.

August 16, 2026

Chat Equity and Functional Capital

Relational history matters. Old friends often get more leeway because years of shared experience create relationship resilience. I didn’t expect to discover something similar after eleven months of working with an AI, until I tried starting over with another one.

August 15, 2026

What Friendship Is Made Of

What is friendship made of? How does it form, and what makes it stronger? After many months of exploring those questions, I think I finally have an answer.

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