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Insights on friendship, connection, and building a stronger social life.
September 21, 2026
Transform Your Friend-Making with Playouts
Making friends is a steep road. Playouts make the climb easier.
September 18, 2026
Why Is It So Hard to Get People to Help?
It is hard to get people to care, and surprisingly easy to teach them not to.
September 15, 2026
What Is Control Credit and Do I Really Want It?
The people who give the most often end up with the most say. That seems fair. It can also quietly change the relationship in ways neither person intended.
September 9, 2026
Real Fit Is a 2% Proposition
Get very good at filtering out non-fits cheaply and quickly. Whether you're choosing songs, friends, employees, or a spouse, the road to quality runs through quantity.
September 4, 2026
How Do You Drive Agency in Other People?
Agency drives contribution from the workplace to the weekend. Find out whether you expand agency in others or quietly suppress it.
September 3, 2026
Some Invitations Are Offers. Others Are Requests.
Give people agency in the experiences you share, and together you can create better experiences and stronger relationships.
September 2, 2026
OK, I Self-Regulated. Now What?
Self-regulation is supposed to make us better, not smaller. The goal isn't endless control. It is enough control to create freedom.
September 2, 2026
What Does Happiness Feel Like?
What makes us happy is often recited, but what does it feel like? How do we know when we have arrived?
August 31, 2026
Fractal Behavior Reveals Character
What can fractals tell us about people and the future of a friendship with them?